They say men are less complicated than women.

It’s true.

As a husband and a boyfriend before that, I’ve spent decades trying to figure out what the hell the woman I made my wife wants.

And as a writer, I’ve invested countless hours racking up well over a million words written trying to answer that same general “what do women want” question for the benefit of other married men who are customers of CubicZirconia.com.

And despite all that thinking, conversation, writing and research…

I’ve yet to get many of the same answers after asking a bunch of ladies why they married the man with whom they chose to spend their life . Answers all over the map. 

Good luck trying to figure out just one of woman-- it’s the work of a lifetime, and anybody who claims they’ve got the whole gender figured out is a damned liar.

OTOH, if a guy says “my wife rocks”, I could tell you why he feels that way. In fact, I would comfortably bet my family’s fortune I can guess at least 3 of the 7 things he would say he likes most about her. 

Almost 50% correct answers from blind guesses about a guy I just met for the first time that day!

Hell, men are simple y’all. 

I could boil down marital advice on how a wife can keep her husband happy to 100 words if I wanted to do that. 

But I get paid by the word and here’s 2233 of ‘em, ladies. 

Wanna give your wiferank a quickie boost?

These 7 wifely habits that are worth developing to keep your marriage on track and your husband smiling.

If you’re married and your wife doesn’t share at least some of these habits, we're not saying that your gal is without her own brand of awesomeness…but I’d be skeptical if I heard you still say “my wife rocks”. Very skeptical.

1) She remembers to put things where they go

 A disorganized home is a more stressful one. There's something singularly frustrating about looking for a tool, utensil, food, office supply item or other object in the home and finding it missing from its designated place. But when everything around the house is right in its place  when you need it, ahh that’s heavenly.

‘Where did you put the umbrella?’ shouldn’t ever be asked in an orderly home. 

When you’re done using it, put the screwdriver in the toolbox! 

Drill in the case with all its bits and bobs so the small pieces don’t get lost.

Put the bread in the breadbox! 

If the car emergency kit is in the kitchen, it ain’t doing anyone any good. 

And if I’m searching around for the scissors, I’m not a happy husband.

‘Everything has a place and everything in its place’ isn’t just a cute-sounding homey proverb, it’s also one of the simplest ways to please the simplest of people (men).

Mrs. Cubic Zirconia is far better today about these things than she was naturally before living so long with me. At times, I despaired of ever teaching my wife this principle of a happy home and a happy husband… though my kids are getting it by God because I’ve had them in my house since birth.

Wives and husbands that put things back help keep home the well-oiled machine you want it to be. If your Mrs. puts things in their proper place, that’s awesome (just know that if you’ve got a great one, she will put YOU in your place if needed, too).

2) She has a life and interests of her own

Someone who cultivates interests outside of a relationship tends to be more interesting, more secure, more attractive. For all but the most controlling and insecure of men, guys who aren’t turnips-for-brains will generally acknowledge that it’s a terrific habit for their woman to devote time to her own interests.

When you encourage her to make sure she has a life outside of you (and your kids if any), it’s a beautiful thing. You get a break from one another. You develop as individuals and not just as a couple. She can exercise her independence and learn new things.

Frankly, it might not be altogether healthy for husbands and wives to do everything together, and share every single experience hand-in-hand like a damn Hallmark card (no matter how cute they may look, remember that eventually all of those end up in the landfill as trash).

When both partners are able to find new interests, they're also able to bring new passions back to their marriage and to demonstrate to each other that they're growing and have new and exciting experiences to reveal.

3) She selflessly nurtures her crew and makes them feel special

The idea of the ‘nurturing female' is universally known. It may be politically correct to call a stereotype a stereotype, but truth is truth, brother. And my experience matches that of the conventional wisdom: women tend to be pretty good nurturers.

Ain’t nothing politically incorrect about saying that pound for pound, most women have way more compassion than most men…or that as a whole the female gender is far better than the male at showing love through selfless acts of service that make their loved ones feel special.

Nurturing the people in her life is a wonderful habit for a woman to possess because it demonstrates her caring nature and, certainly, benefits the recipients of that nurturing.

The little things she does like buying everyone's favorite snacks when she shops or making sure everyone feels loved are examples of her nurturing habits.

Reciprocate as you can and nurture her, too, so she gets to feel special. Don’t let her forget to take care of herself-- and you do it for her sometimes, too. Encourage her natural nurturing habit gentlemen, and don’t take it (or her) for granted.

The dividends of doing so payoff big-time.

4) She makes savvy saving and shopping decisions

It’s common for men to complain about how much their wives buy. And there's a cliche that all women love to shop. It’s a patently false stereotype that I only need one piece of anecdotal evidence to disprove: my wife is in reality not only far more frugal than I am but indeed one of the most frugal people I’ve ever met of any gender. I kind of have to push her to buy anything at all-- and certainly to buy anything for herself.

And while Mrs. Cubic Zirconia is a completely unique combination of smart, sexy and cute…she’s by no means the only woman out there who’d qualify as a smart shopper who’d rather save than spend and doesn’t consume a bunch of unnecessary products.

Honestly, over the years I think a big part of this “women love to shop” lie men tell themselves and each other comes down to their own damn laziness. After all, households and families need stuff; if your lazy ass never buys anything the house needs, then it makes perfect sense that she shops more than you do. And when the lady of the house can get those home essentials at a great price, oooh that feels nice. Try it sometime yourself, dude.

It's a great habit for a man or a woman to shop smart and manage money well.

Overspending can be a problem, but the frugal woman who can track down deals on the items needed in the household keeps things running smoothly.

Money savvy doesn't have to mean she never buys anything fun, either; she just knows how to stretch that dollar. Maybe that means she buys herself a pair of flawless 2 carat high-quality cubic zirconia platinum earrings instead of overspending on a pair of platinum diamond earrings when it’s clear nobody can tell the difference. The savings? Oh just about $10,000.

From my POV as a maker and seller of high-quality diamond-alternative jewelry, well that’s just dandy. And from some husband’s POV who is married to a customer of ours: if she’s gonna want it and wear it, at least it’s much less expensive than diamonds!

5) She says what she means and means what she says

Who doesn’t love a woman who knows how to get her point across effectively, without drama or unnecessarily ruffling feathers? Who prefers a woman who beats around the bush and whines about how her guy doesn’t understand her? No man I can name. The right amount of honest communication and not having to guess what she wants or tiptoe around feelings is a great feeling in a man-woman relationship!

Too much talking or not enough talking could negatively impact communication, but if your partner understands the value of meaningful communication, you've got a great thing going.

Ladies…when you can communicate effectively and hit that right balance between too much and not enough talk, you can literally make a man eat out of your hand.

Seriously, it’s not that difficult. I’ll prove it. If he married you, he finds you attractive…agreed?

So try this simple communication test: put a fresh strawberry, chocolate kiss, peach slice or other dainty delicacy in the palm of your hand and let’s explore some of the many ways a wife can successfully make her husband do exactly as she says to do…immediately:

• Seductively say “hey big boy, are you hungry?” and watch him grab it with open mouth.
  
  
• Ask if he wants to trade a kiss for a sample taste of what you’ve got.
  
  
• Use your other hand to point at the morsel and say “Eat it. Now!” to start the feeding.
  
  
• Tell him the fruit reminds you of the kitchen floor and makes you feel dirty, does he?
  
  
• Wink and whisper a question, “something sweet for now, something spicy for later?”
  
  
• Casually ask if he wants something sweet in his mouth and airplane it to his hangar.

Literally all of these methods will work on almost all men. 

Why?

‘Cuz communicating with men isn’t really that hard.
    And nor is it hard to make them do what you want.

Not that hard, indeed. You just have to keep in mind that his needs and wants are pretty simple-- and he’s thinking of that certain something hundreds of times every day (even in what most women might feel are non-sensual situations like contemplating a snack quickie).

Which brings me to this next habit of wives that rock…

6) She gets it on 

Did someone already say “quickie”? That has another meaning you know! And so no one can accuse me of being obtuse, unclear or otherwise ambiguously elusive in details, I am flat-out stating that one of the 7 habits of wives that rock is how much she too enjoys a romp n’ roll. 

Most men could be sexually satisfied by a woman who doesn’t even like them or find them attractive. Otherwise there’d be no prostitution in the world. I suspect a moderately attractive woman could even have a bored-- or even disgusted-- look on her face the whole time she’s providing that sexual contact, and most men would still be able to orgasm.

And if there’s a universal rule for making men happy IMHO, it’s that orgasms are awesome.

But when a woman really likes sex, it's next level awesome.

A wife who initiates and welcomes sex on a regular basis-- maybe not too much but definitely not too little-- is sure to keep the fires of husbandly desire burning brightly.

A healthy sex life is crucial for many couples to thrive together: reduce frustration, increase contentment, regular sex in the marriage provides a wonderful lubricant for smoothing out some of the friction of daily life.

No sex in a marriage, on the other hand, can lead to all sorts of problems.

Fuck that!

7) She laughs and doesn't sweat the small stuff

Life is heavy sometimes, brother. 

Arguments happen sometimes over petty stuff. Things we try to do end up failing. We make fools of ourselves. The price of just about everything will go up. As we get older, we lose loved ones. No matter even if we’re standing still, still we run into problems. 

A partner who can't tell the molehills from the mountains can try your patience at the very least-- or at the extreme even sap much of the joy out of otherwise okay days, weeks, months and even years. 

My wife rocks in part because she’s almost always ready to laugh and knock down the small frustrations of our lives together with confidence, humor and chill vibes. 

If you, too, have a wife who can be a daily inspiration with the grace and humor with which she manages your lives and the inevitable small stressors…good on ya, mate. If you have a great one, you know it. Treat her like gold. Hell, treat her to gold: gold jewelry, perhaps?