After the wedding, all couples ultimately realize that happily-ever-after takes some work. Of course, the 'work' is often just paying attention to your spouse and showing them the love and care you vowed to give them.
Mrs. Cubic Zirconia here today dear reader...coming at ya with a great gift idea for your significant someone special that you probably never tried-- or even heard of-- before.
Whether you choose to give this selfless and BIG gift for your spouse only once, once every few years, or once per decade...one way you can make your husband or wife feel super special is to grant them what we call a "wish week": 7 wishes in 7 days.
Wish week is a gift idea every spouse deserves to be given at least once.
We all have wishes from time to time. Maybe your wife has been eyeing an expensive pair of running shoes that she's too frugal to buy herself. Maybe your husband has been pining semi-quietly to test drive a racecar and experience what it's like to zoom along a professional racing track at upwards of 216 miles per hour.
Whether you offer a wish week for a birthday, anniversary, holiday like Valentines' Day or Christmas, Mother's Day or Father's Day-- or simply just because your spouse could use and by-God deserves some extra attention and fun-- consider granting them seven wishes in seven days at least once during your marriage.
Hey, you may even like it enough to do it more than once!
7 Wishes in 7 Days?!
Hmmm...the way my husband Mr. Cubic Zirconia makes wishes like a 5-year-old with a credit card, when we first came up with this idea...I said to my smart-grrrl-self:
"Honey, this is going to require some ground rules."
Lay Some Ground Rules for a Successful and Happy Wish Week for Couples Experience
For wish week to work, you may need to lay some ground rules.
Number one is put it in writing and in advance! No surpriseys.
Maybe you're not financially able to gift your husband or wife tickets to a Taylor Swift concert or a World Series game tix-and-hotel package.
When offering your spouse the wish week "7 wishes in 7 days", you can certainly put a financial cap on the week. You can also request that there be low-to-no financial implications on at least some wishes. For instance, a picnic at the local park isn't going to require much particular expense-- definitely not when compared with a table for two at the hot Michelin-starred restaurant in the big city.
And at least once wish needs to mean spending quality time together. Let's be honest: you married him/her, so more time together in special ways ought to be a pretty obvious inclusion in this experience. Fulfillment of wish week wishes should bring the couple even closer, and include plenty of quality time-- though it’s also okay to make one or more selfish wishes that are all about you!
Also, you might want to encourage your spouse to be 'reasonable;' that is to say something like: No wishes for activities, experiences, or items that he/she knows would be considered out of bounds for your normal dislikes, pet peeves or previously-agreed boundaries in your relationship.
(No, ma'am...if you agreed to be civil to your sister in law, you shouldn't use a "wish week" wish to change your mind to instead making your hubby accept the new status quo that you'll never again have to be in the same room with that wretched woman.
And no, sir...if she told you flat-out that your fantasy of anal sex was a one-time thing and never-again-to-be-repeated, it's not fair to try to weasel your way in the banned backdoor with a "wish week" wish, okay pumpkin?)
To recap some ground rules:
- 7 wishes should be written by wisher and handed back to the wish giver so he/she can plan ahead
- You cannot wish for more wishes! (I learned this lesson because my husband is sneaky!)
- Wishes must be reasonable and not previously noted as against an agreed-upon personal or marriage boundary
- The total wish week must have an agreed total financial budget and don't wish for items that will break your bank (e.g. "budget for wishes combined must not exceed what the couple earns in a week").
-
A wish week list of wishes is supposed to be fun for you both-- not stressful.
-
If you're granted a wish week, don't take advantage of the opportunity to ask for something that you know will upset your spouse.
- Don't be overly materialistic! Some wishes at least should have no cost
- Don't forget to include at least one or more wishes that include quality time to spend with your wish giver, spouse and partner in time
What Might a 'Wish Week for Couples' Gift Look Like?
Having granted my husband a wish week, I knew what to expect overall, but it was fun to see some surprises.
I asked him to fill out his wish list and this is what he returned:
Day 1, Wish 1: Drinks with you on Sunday (by 'you' he meant me, Mrs. Cubic Zirconia...not you reading this LOL).
Day 2, Wish 2: Two 'yeses' for Monday (as parents, we operate on a two-yes, one-no basis, meaning if one of us says 'no' to the kids it's a no final answer; during this day, he wished for me to spend the whole day with him on the basis of asking me for things and if I wanted to do them-- i.e. a "second yes" -- then we would do them. If you're thinking this was a sneaky way for him to get extra un-authorized wishes, I would agree. Technically, he didn't rub me like a genie; he left me the option to say 'no' but at the very least I'd have to say this wish was on the edge! See the Rules above because I totally added that you cannot wish for more wishes!).
Day 3, Wish 3: Picnic lunch out of the house together Tuesday.
Day 4, Wish 4: Tease me, don't please me lust-crazy day Wednesday.
Day 5, Wish 5: Multi-Movie Night at the Theater Thursday.
Day 6, Wish 6: Private
Day 7, Wish 7: Even more private!
(It's totally OK to ask for physical gifts, my husband just happened to ask mostly for experiences. I’m thinking during my next wish week I’ll probably get this old iPad replaced…hmmm)
'Encourage' Ideas if Necessary: Some Ideas for Wish Week Wishes You Might Give Your Husband or Wife
Your spouse might not be as creative as you.
Your spouse might not be as needy as mine.
There's no reason you can't inspire some wishes.
After all, you might know them better than they know themselves.
You can offer some options that you think might resonate with them.
Some wish list ideas of the top of my head might include:
-
"Deep Clean that Garage, Buddy" Monday
-
Drive-in movie for two Tuesday
-
Breakfast in bed for me Wednesday
-
Time for my new iPhone Thursday
- Lingerie lovin' Friday
-
Family roller derby fun Saturday
-
"Hour-long massage for me" Sunday
- Double Day off Work Golf Day Monday
- Midnight blanket stargazing Tuesday
- Foot rub and sexy new shoes shopping Wednesday
- Cheerleader Fantasy Sex Thursday
- Adults only Weekend Getaway Friday
- Take me out salsa dancing Saturday
-
All-day NFL Football Cookout & Block Party Sunday
-
CubicZirconia.com earrings Monday (did you see that one coming?)
- "She plans a mystery date out for us" Tuesday
- Gaming marathon together Wednesday
- Scented oil massage with a "Happy Ending" Thursday
- Hot air balloon Friday
- CubicZirconia.com eternity band ring Saturday (say "it's forever" with the gift of an eternity band; say it for less with the limited-time discount on any eternity band, anniversary band or pair of earrings using the special blog-readers discount noted at the BOTTOM of this post!)
- "Nude day (she spends / we spend the whole day naked)" Sunday
-
Family amusement park Monday
- Come home to a candlelight home-made dinner "surprise" Tuesday
-
Tandem skydiving Wednesday
- "I'm the sun!" the-world-revolves-around-me Thursday (or at least the house does)
-
Couples' double date dinner at French restaurant Friday
-
Dress up Date Night Out Saturday
- Sleep in Sunday 'til noon for the rest of the year while he takes care of the kids
Wait, what?
What happened?
I must have drifted off for a minute.
Where was I?
What Do You Wish for?
Ideally, your partner will return the favor and offer you a wish week opportunity to check off your wishlist at some point too.
One team member at CubicZirconia.com suggested that you might even try to incorporate a couple's wish week into each year. She wasn't fired for such an outrageous idea, but everyone else who heard this idea shook their head like this unnamed worker was at least a little crazy. Try it once first, dear.
More than once in a lifetime together, sure why not!?
All we're saying is that at least once in your marriage, your spouse should get a wish week!
Don't let another year go by without doing it, okay?
Go ahead and think of when you're gonna gift your hubby or wife his or her very own wish week with you providing the goodies of 7 wishes in 7 days.
Let the genie outta that bottle, baby!
A wish week can be a great lead up to or in the week following an anniversary or special holiday like Valentine's Day. The week between Christmas and New Year's? It's like it was MADE for something like a Wish Week.
Personally, I'll tell you it can be fun to consider what you wish for and have your own "Wish week" list at the ready for when your spouse grants you a wish week.
Ladies, your husband might or might not be surprised to find that your list looks quite different from his.
For instance, you might wish for:
-
Morning at a museum Monday.
-
Spa day Tuesday.
-
Husband weeds the entire garden Wednesday.
-
Wardrobe shopping spree Thursday.
-
Chick-flick and homemade pizza night Friday.
-
Vineyard visit Saturday.
-
Wait on me like a queen Sunday.
You get the idea!
Make your wishes count. After all, who knows whether you'll be in a couple where your partner does this for you once only during the marriage...once per decade, once every couple years...or (crazy idea alert: once per year LOL).
What Can a Wish Week Do for Your Marriage?
A wish week allows a spouse to feel like the center of attention.
That kind of focus within a family isn't always possible, especially when kids are part of the equation, during busy work weeks, due to caregiver responsibilities or when other things and people continually need attention.
However, husbands and wives need to feel heard and seen with "It's all about me" focused attention from time to time. This kind of gift reminds them how much they're cherished and loved.
It's easy to get into mundane routines. While routines offer some much-needed structure, a wish week changes things up in a positive way. It can infuse some spontaneity into your week and encourage you both to have fun together.
Wish Week Don'ts for the Gift Giver (the private rules your gift recipient might not know but that you yourself are trying to follow!)
When it comes to wish weeks, you must commit.
If you offer a "wish week" gift wish list and agree to the requests he/she makes... don't get lazy or take shortcuts. You've gotta be sure to come through on your wish promises.
This might be a one-time thing you do, or might not.
But treat it like it is during the week.
He/she who is receiving your "wish week" gift will feel the specialness.
We welcome your comments...plus special discount just for readers!
We'd love to hear back about your wish week.
Drop us a message and tell us about what you and your partner wished for?
We’d love to say we have a wish week every couple years, but the truth isn’t quite so often. That's kinda our goal, though. Whatever you choose, we just think every married man and wedded woman deserves at least once in their marriage to get a week of wishes fulfilled by his/her lover!
Yet maybe the rarity of the thing is part of what makes it so special?
And so much anticipated...
Mmm, what do I want to wish for next time?
Let us know your wish week plans and successes; I'm always looking for fun ideas to inspire my own wishes (pretty sure my hubster has his next 77 wishes all written down somewhere, jeez).
Just for blog readers who made it all the way to the bottom of this post, we're offering a limited-time discount on any eternity band, anniversary band or pair of earrings using the special blog-readers discount we'll email you just for leaving a comment on this blog post.
Simply comment your gift recipient’s name (your own or your significant other’s) PLUS the "Wish week" month of the year you expect to need the discount c0de (aka promo c0de / coup0n code) like "Jennifer Young: July 2025" and we'll privately email you a special code you and/or your significant other can use to save a whopping 24% on those product categories during not just your special 24 hours but that whole month.
Who loves ya?
Love, laughter & sparkles,
Mrs. Cubic Zirconia